1. Free Your Mind. THE GUILT EXPERIMENT.
Much of what stops us being a wildcat in the bedroom are the layers of guilt we feel about enjoying sex. Think about how your beliefs might be inhibiting your ability to experience deep pleasure. Many of these beliefs are taught to us by our parents, society, culture and the millenia of sexual suppression we have endured. Below is an example of how you can turn your old ideas into new ones. Use the new ideas as affirmations and repeat them to yourself often.
FILL IN YOUR OWN OLD AND NEW BELIEFS
2. Read. Watch. Pin.
Often because of the inherent guilt we feel about truly loving sex, we repress our fantasies. The goal here is to give our imagination a little push so that it be filled with rich, luscious scenarios to fuel our lovemaking.
WATCH: Get a Tumblr account and watch sexy gifs of the types of sex that turns you on. Or find porn that you like.
PIN: Get a Pinterest account and make a board of inspiring images. You will uncover the landscape of your erotic mind and be able to build on it.
If you wanted to research an overseas holiday, you would click for hours on your computer checking hotels, prices, destinations and eateries. When looking for erotica, we often don't put in the same effort. Approach this exercise with diligence and curiosity. You will inevitably find stories, gifs and porn that you don't like and you can disregard it. But when you find material that you love, investigate more like it. Note the director of the film, follow the blogger from Tumblr, use hashtags, follow the themes in the story you read and find books that explore that theme more thoroughly. If it's a prison scene that turns you on, group sex, interracial sex, lesbian sex, toe sucking or Pride and Prejudice, find more stuff that explores that theme.
You might have only one fantasy at a time or many. Don't judge your erotic landscape or be ashamed of it. Use it to build arousal and ultimately feel deep pleasure. Block out all other thoughts and concentrate on your favourite fantasy during lovemaking or when masturbating. It is no-ones responsibility to give you pleasure. It is your responsibility to accept pleasure into your own mind and body.
Fantasy is a brilliant tool to fuel your passion, increase desire and unlock your orgasmic potential.
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