You did it! You have successfully challenged your pleasure! Celebrate you! Turn up your favourite music, collect your favourite toys, lotions and potions and go wild on yourself. It is the masturbation equivalent of dancing like nobody's watching. Be dramatic and accentuate your movements and noises. Your sex and your pleasure is a gift that is distinctly yours. Claim it. Revel in yourself.
Breathing exercises can help ground your pleasure and activate your erogenous zones. To tap into your bliss, start by sitting in a comfortable position with your spine straight. Focus on your breathing and breath in and out, pushing the air and your stomach in and out as you inhale and exhale, 10 times. Repeat this three times, gradually increasing the force of your breath with each set. Concentrate on feeling the pelvic region activate as you breathe out with your stomach. If you start to feel light-headed, go easy for a bit and then work your way back up. Once you have completed three sets of ten, finish the exercise by tensing your lower abdominal muscles and holding the breath in for a count of three. Slowly lift and lower your head as you do so. Slowly release the breath. Notice the sensations in your body as you start to pleasure yourself. You may have to practice this breathing technique regularly to get increased benefits.
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Visual stimulation plays an important part in arousal. Experiment with looking at the parts of your body that make you feel the sexiest. Anticipate what it would feel like for those very special parts to receive sensual attention. You can also experiment with using sexually explicit imagery. Pay attention to the body parts that are the most sensitive on your own body. See if you can use the sexual stimulation to stoke the flames of arousal in your own body.
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Today's pleasure is all about being a little bit greedy. Try pleasuring yourself to orgasm, then keep going until you reach a second orgasm. This exercise can require a bit of patience and gentleness with yourself. Really concentrate on the sensations and pay attention to how any sensitivities start to build and feel really pleasurable again. Sex toys can help with this, particularly if you start on a low setting and then crank it up when you go for your second orgasm. Don't worry too much about making it happen, just concentrate on how good everything feels, the main goal is always to concentrate on how good your body is feeling.
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Sex is such a sensual experience that even the act of eating can turn you on. It is possible to try different foods to see if they inspire your arousal, or you can try training yourself to be aroused when you eat certain foods. Some traditional aphrodisiacs are: fiery/spicy foods, warming spices like cinnamon, ginger and turmeric, chocolate, oysters, genital shaped fruits and vegetables, and anything that might be considered to be exotic. Treat yourself to a rich and creamy indulgence before or during your pleasure session and see how it affects your senses.
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There are many nerve endings in the anus that can cause pleasurable sensations when they are stimulated. Even if you don't feel you are ready to try insertion you can experiment with caressing and stroking your butt cheeks before going in deeper. Stage two would be to gently stroke your anus. Don't forget the lube! There are many different sizes of toys that can be inserted into the anus, just make sure to use something that has a handle or base so that you don't have to make a trip to the emergency room to have it removed!
Choose the method that arouses you the most and time how fast you can make it to completion. Remember that what can be considered to be "fast" varies from person to person. It can also help to get yourself going by priming your body or your brain with thoughts and sensations that turn you on the most.
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EXPIRES: Midnight tonight.Get yourself comfortable, grab a pen (or laptop) and write your own erotica. Your challenge is to try to turn yourself on as much as possible. To get started, try describing the most arousing sexual experience you have ever had. Prefer not to use real life inspiration? Try describing a steamy scene from a favourite movie or book. Don't want to write? Record audio or video of yourself telling the story. Don't forget to turn yourself on!
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It is time you started dating yourself. Practice your full date night self-care routine. Be mindful of your process, concentrating on the things that make you feel sexy and attractive. Take time to appreciate all your deliciousness. Yes! You look amazing! Now take yourself dancing, or maybe Netflix and chill? No matter what you do, just make sure it all leads to sexy fun times.
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Make sure you have privacy and space for this. Allow yourself to be really vocal as you explore your pleasure. Make all the noise you want. Experiment with different noises. For added fun record yourself and play it back the next time you pleasure yourself.
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Experiment with penetrative sensations. Using your different fingers, gently explore your inner areas. Take note of the textures and of any particularly sensitive spots. If you have appropriate toys to aid in your exploration, use those, but be gentle. Generous amounts of lube is recommended, and make sure that anything that goes in your bum has a base, so that it can be easily removed.
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CODE MMDAY21Using your entire body, try experimenting with delicate sensations. Be as light as possible in your touch or use the lightest possible setting on your vibrator. Pay attention to how the sensations build. Do not necessarily make orgasm your goal. Instead try to build up the sensations to generate more and more pleasure in your body.
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CODE MMDAY20Time to deeply associate your orgasmic pleasure with a passionate love of yourself. Choose a body loving mantra such as "I love myself" or "My body is beautiful" or " I deserve pleasure" and repeat it out loud to yourself over and over again as you pleasure yourself. To take things to the next level, try saying your mantra while watching yourself in the mirror.
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It's time for your to try your hand at some solo BDSM. Today is about about experimenting with spanking yourself. First, choose your implement. It can be your hand, a wooden spoon, or a leather belt. Find a comfortable position. You can try getting on all fours, or bending over your bed or a chair. Strike the fleshy, lower parts of the butt. Avoid the upper areas or any spots that feel uncomfortable. Experiment with rhythm, force and speed.
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Harness your pleasure energy to help yourself feel orgasmic at any time. This involves opening your mind and focusing on something that gives you pleasure. Position yourself in a relaxed position, close your eyes and focus on your body. Go through each area of your body and imagine receiving pleasure there. Visualise the type of touch it would take. Allow yourself to really feel the pleasure. Leave your genital region until last. When you're ready, visualise a powerful orgasm and how it would feel moving through your body. Keep up this practice and eventually you may be able to initiate spontaneous orgasms.
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There's no need for masturbation to always be a solo sport. You're a sexy spectacle, put on a show. Got a partner or special friend? Have someone watch you masturbate. You can even find someone online. Then watch them masturbate. For true mutual pleasure, watch each other masturbate. Just remember to keep your hands to yourself.
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If you haven't used lube in solo play, now is your time to try it! It can intensify genital sensation and heighten pleasure. If you have used lube, try using a different type or way more than you usually would to experiment with different sensations.
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It can be challenging to think of yourself in the act of sex, so it make sure you are feeling good in yourself before attempting this one. Use a mirror to watch yourself or your genitals as you pleasure yourself. Alternatively, you can try recording yourself. Try to really connect with your inner sexy. Put on a show! Play with different techniques and see what intensifies the experience as you build up the sensations.
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EXPIRES: Midnight tonight.Your pelvic area is full of muscles and nerve endings. Keeping these muscles toned increases your sexual health and helps you to achieve better orgasms. Today is about taking some time to stretch out the muscles in your pelvic region. Make sure you choose exercises that you can do comfortably. Lay flat on your back. Bring the soles of your feet together and allow your knees to fall apart. Slowly bring your feet in towards your bum. Hold the stretch for as long as it feels comfortable. Be mindful of your breathing. Release the position and relax, then go into the stretch again.
Get truly sensual by activating your senses during your pleasure session. Use incense or an oil diffuser to active your sense of smell. Listen to some sensual music or ASMR through your earbuds. Try sucking on a piece of chocolate or fruit. Activate your skin by laying on a satiny smooth surface, or use an acupressure mat to provide a more intense sensation. Layer elements one at time, and focus in on how it impacts your experience of pleasure.
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Did you know that there are different types of orgasms? Simultaneous stimulation can cause multiple sensations to build up for a mindblowing experience. Experiment with stimulating two different spots that can generate orgasms. For people with vulvas this could be the clitoris and the g-spot. For people with penises, this could be the prostate and the penis. It's your body, play with what feels best. If you need another "hand", don't forget that toys are very useful tools for generating blended orgasms.
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The point of this activity is not necessarily the orgasm. Using massage oil or lubricant, take your time to massage your pubic mound and surrounds. Work the muscles using varied pressure and techniques. Continue the massage until you start to feel more relaxed throughout your pelvic region. Note any emotions or sensations that arise. Once you feel suitably relaxed start to massage your genitals. You may or may not want to continue until you reach orgasm.
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Explore sexually explicit internet images (porn) or read some erotica to put you in the mood. Try to ignore the production values and challenge yourself to find something that is uniquely arousing to you. Perhaps it is seeing or reading about someone being touched in the way that you like, or seeing something that you wouldn't necessarily do yourself. It doesn't matter if part of you does not approve. Focus on any reactions that you may or may not be experiencing in your body, and how that affects your arousal and pleasure.
Sometimes the pleasure is all in the journey. Today is all about enjoying all of those pre-orgasm sensations. Edging involves bringing yourself as close to orgasm as possible without actually crossing the finish line. Stimulate yourself until you feel you are about to orgasm, then stop. Allow yourself a bit of time before resuming stimulation, then bring yourself to the edge again. See how many times you can bring yourself to the edge without going over. Alternatively, you can just enjoy the sensations in your body without the intention of orgasm. Either way pay attention to how connected you are with your body. Do you feel more relaxed? Are you more sensitive? Does the experience of pleasure change? If you do allow yourself to orgasm, how does it feel?
You have five senses, experiment with depriving yourself of one (or more) of them as you pleasure yourself today. Try a blindfold, put in ear plugs, or make a gag for yourself. Make sure to keep it safe and allow yourself the opportunity to easily escape.
Often the genitals are the main attraction when it comes to masturbation. Try exploring self-worship, which involves focusing some loving attention to a specific part of your body. Choose your hand or arm, or even your foot and kiss it, suck on it. Treat yourself with all the passion of a dearly loved and desired person. Lust for it. Feel free to switch to different body parts.
Warming lubrication stimulates blood flow, which can increase sensitivity and sensation. Try using it on the sensitive outer regions of your genitals, or on other sensitive spots such as your nipples, neck, or anal regions. Just make sure to keep it to external areas only.
It's time to grind! Use a pillow or other soft object to mount and grind your pelvis against. Try using different techniques and movements to create different sensations. You can also try placing a vibrator in the pillowcase to give yourself a bit of added stimulation. Alternatively you can grind only against your vibrator, or even use a dildo with a suction cup.
Using only your hands and your wildest imagination, submit your body to your deepest fantasies. Close your eyes and conjure up a hot, hot fantasy. Think about where and how you would like to be touched. Use your hands to play out the actions of your lover/s in the fantasy. Explore yourself by assuming the positions that bring you most pleasures. Verbalize your desires to lover/s aloud, and have your hands do their bidding. Remember you are only limited by your imagination. If you need a bit of inspiration, consider reading a bit of erotica.
Vibration is one of the easiest ways to stimulate your genitals and activate your pelvic muscles. Choose your favourite vibrator and starting on the lowest setting, apply it to all those special places on your body, slowly working your way up to your sexy bits. Try changing the angle while adding and removing pressure to experience different sensations. Slowly increase the intensity and see how long it takes to reach completion. Different vibrators offer different sensations, as they will often utilise different types of motors. A corded wand vibrator will give you maximum impact and with an extra long cord, you will never have to worry about running out of batteries again.