"It's just not happening right now,
all that initial excitement and connection has fizzled!"
Are you and your partner feeling stuck in a sex-rut? Are you saying the old classic lines like "how do we spice this up?"
It is often hardest to talk about sex with the people we are having sex with.
You've just got on and done it for years 'organically'. You've never had to speak about it. How do you start that conversation? What questions do you ask without accidentally hurting any feelings? How do you choose vocabulary and language that won't sound weirdly medical or make you giggle uncontrollably?
Here is a solution - spend an hour with The Lubrarian facilitating that conversation. Together you will understand the source of the de-fizzle and strategise how to exponentially increase your sexual connection and creativity.
You will leave feeling confident, connected and excited to explore new ideas.
Who is this for?
This is for couples of any gender or life stage who are committed and feeling curious.
Clients who benefit most tend to be highly motivated to creating an incredible sex life together to match the rest of their relationship. As one client put it (female, with her male partner for 10 years) :
"We have a great relationship that includes our business, house and kids. But the sex bit just isn't there anymore, I hate feeling like we're housemates drifting apart. If we had a financial problem that was hurting our relationship we would seek help, so why not get a specialist on board for this!"
Who is The Lubrarian? What does she do?
The Lubrarian is a sexual wellbeing consultant with a passion for creating new ways to solve sex-related problems. She is currently doing PHD research on how to combine design and psychology to offer a novel approach for couple's re-navigating their sex life.
The appointment is conversation based with a mix of facilitated conversation, sexuality education and games designers use to communicate ideas and solve problems.
Note : there is no nudity or touching in the appointment. Think 'a little more conversation, a little less action.'
How does it work?
Appointments take place 11am - 7pm on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays.
To book an appointment please pay here through the website or over the phone. We will be in touch with you straight after to book an appointment.
"My husband and I met The Lubrarian at a cosy cafe to discuss a subject that has aways been somewhat taboo in our cultures, so not something we openly discuss. She made it seem natural and soon the conversation was flowing. Her passion for the subject and thorough knowledge is impressive. After going through numerous topics such as sexual history, erogenous zones and G spot for men, we made our way to a sensual store where Victoria patiently explained the mechanism of all items and their relevance. She is very bright, animated lady and it was an absolute pleasure being in her company and relaxing into a conversation that can be somewhat socially awkward. Thanks Lubrarian!!!"
- Female, 30s, just married medical consultant.
"The Lubrarian approaches sex with good humour and a sparkling intelligence. Far from being judgmental, she takes great joy in helping people realise their most secret erotic dreams. Ask her anything--she loves it!"
- Female, writer.