Dildos and harnesses offer an enormous range of possibilities for solo and partnered play, from simple penetration to strap-on sex and pegging. With different shapes, sizes, materials and levels of firmness, the right choice is very much about finding what feels comfortable and appealing.
Silicone dildos are soft, body-safe and easy to care for, with many designs featuring suction bases that can also be compatible with a harness. Firmer glass and stainless steel dildos offer more targeted pressure and can be warmed or cooled for temperature play.
A well-fitting harness can make all the difference, so we look for designs that are comfortable, adjustable and secure, with options to suit different bodies and styles of play.
Dildos and harnesses offer an enormous range of possibilities for solo and partnered play, from simple penetration to strap on sex and pegging. With different sizes, shapes, materials and levels of firmness, the right choice is less about what a toy is supposed to do and more about the kind of sensation and function that suits the bodies involved.
Silicone dildos can range from soft and flexible to satisfyingly firm, while glass and stainless steel offer more precise pressure and the option of temperature play. Many dildos have suction bases or flared bases that also make them compatible with strap on harnesses.
Harnesses come in everything from simple adjustable designs to underwear style and beautifully made statement pieces, with fit, comfort and control every bit as important as the dildo itself.
At Passionfruit, we choose dildos and harnesses for quality materials, thoughtful shapes, comfortable fit and real world function.
New to strap-on or pegging play? Watch our guide to choosing a dildo and harness combination that works well together.
Dildos and harnesses can be wonderfully simple, but a little attention to size, firmness, shape and compatibility can make choosing much easier.
Choosing a Dildo
Length and width create different sensations, so they’re worth considering separately. Width affects fullness, while shape, curve and firmness influence where and how pressure is felt.
Softer silicone provides flexibility and give, while firmer silicone offers greater control and more targeted pressure. Glass and stainless steel are much firmer again, making relatively small movements feel more precise.
There is no ideal dildo size and no need to progress towards something larger. The useful size is simply the one that suits the body and the kind of play being explored.
Suction Base and Harness Compatible Dildos
A wide, flat base can make a dildo particularly versatile. Depending on the design, it may attach to a smooth surface with suction, sit securely in a strap on harness or provide the flared base required for anal play.
For harness use, check that the base and shaft are compatible with the harness O ring. Some harnesses have interchangeable or stretchy O rings, while others accommodate a more limited range of dildo sizes.
Choosing a Strap On Harness
A good harness should hold the dildo securely while remaining comfortable to wear and easy to control.
Adjustable strap harnesses offer plenty of flexibility around fit, while underwear style harnesses can feel familiar and straightforward to put on. Other designs use leather or more structured materials for additional support and durability.
The weight and firmness of the dildo matter too. A larger or heavier dildo generally needs more support from the harness than a smaller, lighter design.
Strap On Sex and Pegging
Strap on toys can be used by people of many genders, bodies and relationship configurations. Pegging is one use, but certainly not the only one.
For anal penetration, plenty of lubricant, gradual insertion and a dildo with a secure flared base are important. Starting with a manageable size can also make positioning and communication easier when strap on play is new.
Finding the Right Combination
A great strap on setup is about the relationship between the harness, dildo and bodies using them. A beautiful dildo isn’t particularly useful if it won’t sit securely in the chosen harness, and an excellent harness still needs a dildo with the right size, shape and firmness for the intended play.
At Passionfruit, we choose dildos and harnesses for quality materials, good proportions, secure fit and designs that work well together.
