Strap on dildos are designed to be worn with a harness, opening up all sorts of possibilities for partnered play. Most have a flared base that sits securely behind the O ring of a compatible harness, while some designs offer vibration, dual ended stimulation or pack and play versatility.
Size, firmness and shape all affect how a strap on feels for both the wearer and the receiving body. Softer, flexible silicone provides more give, while firmer designs can offer greater control and more targeted pressure.
At Passionfruit, we choose strap on dildos for body safe materials, useful proportions, thoughtful shapes and a secure fit with compatible harnesses, with options ranging from slim first strap ons to fuller and more specialised designs.
A good strap on dildo needs to work for both the receiving body and the person wearing it. Size and shape matter, but so do weight, flexibility and how securely the dildo sits in the harness.
Choosing the Right Size
Length and width are worth considering separately. A longer dildo isn’t necessarily better, particularly when a lot of movement is involved, while width has a greater effect on the sensation of fullness.
For a first strap on dildo, a slimmer, moderately sized design can make it easier to become comfortable with positioning and movement. There’s no need to progress to something larger unless greater fullness is actually wanted.
Soft or Firm?
Softer silicone bends and moves more readily with the body and can feel forgiving during penetration. Firmer dildos provide greater control from the harness and make it easier to direct pressure towards a particular area.
Very soft or heavy dildos may require a particularly supportive harness to prevent unwanted movement.
Will a Dildo Fit Any Harness?
Not necessarily. Many strap on harnesses use an O ring to hold the dildo in place, so the diameter of the dildo’s base and the size of the harness O ring need to be compatible.
Some harnesses have interchangeable or stretchy O rings that accommodate several dildo sizes, while others are designed for a more specific fit. Checking compatibility before choosing a combination can save considerable frustration later.
Harness Compatible, Suction Base and Pack and Play Dildos
Many dildos with a wide, flat base can do more than one job. Depending on the design, the same dildo may work with a strap on harness, attach to a smooth surface with suction, or be used by hand.
Pack and play designs can also combine everyday gender affirmation with sexual function, allowing one product to serve several purposes.
Vibrating Strap On Dildos
Some harness compatible dildos include vibration, adding another sensation without changing the basic strap on setup. When choosing one, consider where the motor sits and who is most likely to feel the vibration rather than simply comparing the number of settings.
Using Lubricant
Plenty of lubricant reduces friction and makes strap on play more comfortable. Water based lubricant is the simplest all round choice and is compatible with silicone dildos and condoms.
Silicone lubricant can provide longer lasting glide, but check the manufacturer’s recommendations before using it with a silicone dildo.
Finding the Right Strap On Dildo
There is no universally best strap on dildo. The right combination of size, firmness, shape and harness compatibility depends on the bodies involved and the kind of play being explored.
At Passionfruit, we choose strap on dildos for quality materials, useful shapes, secure bases and designs that work well in a harness.
