Table of Contents

Chapter 1 - FOREPLAY: A strap-on workout warm up.

Chapter 2 - P.E. Class: Penetration education for better strap-on play.

Chapter 3 - Aftercare for strap-on play: A workout warm-down.

Activity-specific outfits and techniques tailored to each apparatus. Is it just me or is the gym the perfect analogy for strap-on sex?


At the Passionfruit Rec Centre, we’re making strap-on play feel more accessible and approachable for everyone – one tip at a time. This volume covers the cooldown: the part where we reflect, rehydrate, and maybe get a couple of stretches going to improve our overall experience.


Like our earlier chapters,  Harnessed, hot and heavy: a strap-on warm up  and  P.E. Class: Penetration education for better strap-on play  this volume is presented by Passionfruit educators and demonstrators Chanelle (she/her) and Fin (they/them), captured by the evocative Alexis Desaulniers–Lea (she/her) @alexisdleaphotography.

Products: Fin wears a black Fun Factory Amor Dildo in a Deluxe Leather & Velcro Harness by WildHide. Chanelle wears the New Boys Playsuit by La Fille d’O.

Endorphins are at an all time high and you’re feeling ecstatic after a rewarding strap-on session. Rather than simply hitting the showers, you might consider applying a little aftercare.


What in the workout is aftercare and why does it matter?

Originating in the BDSM realm, post-sex aftercare refers to the ways that you and your playmates make each other feel safe, seen and supported after a sexual experience.


As you can imagine, this phase is particularly important in bondage, because players are often restrained or put in delectably compromising positions which may leave marks or restrict movement. The aftercare period is designed to help provide parties with the reassurance and recovery time from more intense forms of play (think: impact, roleplay, Dom/sub dynamics, etc.) as well as respond to drops in endorphins and dopamine released throughout the scene.


Not only is this a nice thing to do for your lover, it’s kind of revolutionary for our senses. A sudden decrease in endorphins can result in players feeling vulnerable, exposed and withdrawn, or experiencing physical sensations like shaking or shivering.


And no, it’s not just cuddling, aftercare can involve anything you or your partner needs to feel physically, sensually and mentally supported in the moment. Me? I need a Tim Tam, a Hydralyte, and some personal space after sex; but everyone’s different.

Products: Fin wears a black Fun Factory Amor Dildo in a Deluxe Leather & Velcro Harness by WildHide, as Chanelle applies Sliquid Naturals: Sea Water Based Lubricant 125mL to them.

What should aftercare include?

Perhaps a better question is what could aftercare include? Make time to discuss what your and your partners’ needs are around aftercare ahead of your session to make for more pleasure experiences together.


Here is a non-exhaustive list of ways to support, and be supported, during your cooldown to prevent the comedown:


Physical, tactile and environmental things:

  • Towel-down sweat and other slippery substances or messes from the scene.

  • Tend to any bruising, nicks and cuts accrued along the way, if applicable.

  • Loosen or remove any restrictive accessories or items of clothing, like harnesses.

  • Clean toys and accessories with the appropriate product(s) or sanitiser.

  • Seek warm or comfortable layers like a robe, fluffy blanket or equivalent.

  • Gently touch, embrace, spoon or cuddle.

  • Based on what you’re comfortable with, provide or receive physical touch, like kissing, massaging, etc.

  • Rehydrate and re-energise with water, electrolytes, a cuppa (beware these have a diuretic effect), or a snack.

  • Loosen up any physical tension with some light stretching, where required.

  • Shower or rinse off, together if desired.


Emotional, mental, and relational things:

  • Check in on how all parties are feeling and provide some caring support.

  • Make direct eye contact.

  • Share assuring or affirming words, compliments and conversation.

  • Reflect on the scene with supportive and constructive feedback. E.g. What was enjoyable, what was interesting, etc.

  • Have a laugh! This physical release can help loosen any residual tension or stress sitting in the body.

Chanelle, lit by pink-toned background lights, poses with her arms flexed in front of her like a bodybuilder, holding a rainbow Amor Strap On dildo against her hip.
Products: Chanelle wears the  New Boys Playsuit by La Fille d’O in coral, while posing with a rainbow Fun Factory Amor Dildo.

Find me a lover that will gently towel me down and offer me a cuppa after sex and I’m sorted. Not only does aftercare afford all parties to be seen, heard and validated, it provides a collaborative space to discuss what you and your partner(s) want in your future sessions. If this is something you struggle with on the regular, this cooldown time provides the perfect contextual platform to explore what you might want more or less of in the bedroom.


Is strap-on sex something you want to experiment with this season?

Let us know how your sessions go, and whether this series equipped you with the curiosity or even the confidence to give it a try.