How exciting! You're looking to buy your first vibrator and the world is literally your oyster. So, where do you begin, especially if you haven't owned one before? We've prepared a little article to help guide you through your journey and (hopefully) lead you to your best-ever first vibe.
What do you want out of your first vibrator?
Really think about what you want out of your toy and how you imagine yourself using it.
- Do you imagine yourself using it solo or partnered play or both?
- What situations will you be using it in (e.g. in your bedroom, in a shared house, in the shower, on vacation, etc.)?
- Does it need to be quiet, pocket-sized or waterproof?
- Will budget affect your decision-making?
- Are there any other layers of consideration that need to be taken into account? (E.g. health conditions, sensitivities, chronic illness, or pain.)
Vibrator specifics
Lets talk stimulation, shape and substance.
- Are you looking for something external or internal?
- Are you looking for a particular design? (E.g. a lay-on style vibrator, a wand, a rabbit vibe, bullet vibe or a multi-tasker)
- Would you prefer something made with body-safe silicone or plastic?
- Are there any other layers of consideration that need to be taken into account? (E.g. health conditions, sensitivities, chronic illness, or pain.)
What kinds of vibrators are there?
So. Many. Scroll for a quick summary on each style of vibrator:
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External toys are usually small, discreet, approachable and easy to use either by yourself or for a bit of extra stimulation when you're having sex with a partner: penetrative or otherwise.
Popular external vibrators include designs like the bullet vibrator, pebble design, wand vibrator, and products like: The We-Vibe Touch X, JeJoue Bullets, Tango X and anything by Iroha+.
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Internal toys are super versatile because you can usually use them externally (as above) and then introduce them into your body when you're ready. The main difference, besides shape and size, is whether they're hard and rigid or soft and realistic feeling. A rigid toy may be a little more intimidating to insert but provides a reliable level of resistance throughout. Whereas a soft and realistic toy may be more approachable and ergonomically designed. It's really a matter of preference.
Popular internal vibrators are Tiger (soft), Minamo (soft) Amy 2 and Rave (app controlled and rigid) and Mona.
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Rabbit toys usually feature an external and internal component. These are often used by vulva-owners to target both the external part of the clitoris and penetrate the vagina. Once you've inserted the shaft, you'll have a surround sound experience with more surface area responding to the vibrations. Rabbit toys may also be used for anal exploration, if you feel so inclined. Of course, use plenty of lube because butt does not produce their own lubrication.
Popular rabbit vibrators include Soraya 2, Miss Bi, and Chrome Blend.
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Multitaskers. This category is reserved for those vibrators that offer a little extra something. We're talking about suction vibrators (which are glorious for clitoral or nipple stimulation) or sex toys for couples with more than one arm for sharing between two people.
Popular multitasker vibrators include the Melt 2, Womanizer Next, Chorus Pro and Womanizer Liberty 2.
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Vibrating butt plugs. Everyone has a butt, and brands like b-vibe know exactly how to stimulate them. The cardinal rule of putting anything up your butt is make sure it has a flared based, otherwise you might be in for a visit to your local ER. Good butt plug vibrators come with a flared base, a body-safe silicone finish and an easy to use button (or app!) which you can use to control your pleasure.
Popular butt plug vibrators include the Snug Plug, Hugo 2 App Prostate Massager, and Cocktail.
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Vibrating cock rings. Great news for penis owners: vibrators have entered the chat. If an external vibrator isn't really doing it for you, there are a whole range of vibrating cock rings (or C-rings) that might.
Popular cock ring vibrators include the Bond, Mio and Pivot.
It's all about your vibe.
Basically, there's no right or wrong way to use your vibrator. there are vibrators for women, men, non-binary folks, people who just enjoy the feeling of vibration and folks who are looking for a fun stim toy!
Many people choose a vibrator because they just love the shape or the colour or the feel. Intuitive decisions are often our best decisions too. Whatever feels good is perfect!
Lastly, one toy doesn't need to do everything. While we often find that an internal toy is the most versatile and you can build your collection around that, see what works best for you and expand your pleasure practice that way.




















