Hands free sex: The underrated art of humping & grinding

Whether it's on the dance floor, against the washing machine or atop your pillow, who doesn't love a good grind? This blog is dedicated to the humble hump, the simple act of consensually grazing against people – or things – for sexual stimulation. Let's get into it.

1. For many of us, grinding is our first experience of sexual pleasure. Even in our early development, the feeling of grinding can be so comforting that it becomes a night-time routine, sending us happily off to sleep. As we sexually mature, it can become our favourite way to masturbate, or maybe the only way we can orgasm. 
2. For some of us, pain or dexterity issues make it more difficult to masturbate with our hands or a sex toy, so grinding and humping are wonderful orgasm hacks. (You can read The Handi Book of Love, Lust & Disability for some great stories on this topic).
3. Maybe we have a clitoris or penis that is super sensitive and a fully clothed hump on a pillow feels juuuust right. 
4. Plenty of us just don’t like using our hands and fingers to masturbate.
5. If we feel shy about our genitals for reasons such as inexperience, transitioning to a different gender, intersexuality or just not wanting to have the conversation, a fully clothed grind can be just the ticket. (And you can’t get pregnant)! 
6. If you have an active STI or perhaps your period, grinding can be a low-to-no skin contact way to enjoy intimacy.
7. If we’re on our own and humping face down, we are using our body weight to create friction against whatever it is we’re humping. Our genitals, nipples, face and thighs are all being stimulated!
8. Whatever the reason, humping and grinding feels amazing.

A VIBRATOR

Sometimes the best answer is the most obvious one.

• Turn on your vibe and put it under your pillow before you go the hump.
• Try the We-Vibe Moxie in your underwear or inside your pillow. It stays in place via a magnet and it is the absolute bomb!
• The Bi-Stronic Fusion and Gravity vibrators all thrust backwards and forwards on their own and you don’t even need to use your hands. Lying or sitting on top of them feels super horny.
• Squishy vibes like the Iroha+ range allow for more comfortable grinding.

A LOVER

Who said you need a pillow? Simply find an enthusiastic partner to help fulfil this fantasy.

• Choose to face them or go top down (as in a 69) and giddy up.
• Why stop there? Try grinding on their legs, torsos,, genitals; all brilliant humping apparatuses.

A PILLOW, TEDDY BEAR, BLANKET

Often our first, and some of the most common hump toys. 

• Strap on a vibe to take it to the next level.
• Add a grinding plate/buffer for another level of sensation.

SEX FURNITURE

• We absolutely LOVE the Liberator range - truly sex life changing! Try the Liberator Bon Bon or The Humphrey Pillow for mounted sensations.
• Use what’s on hand. The arm of the couch or the corner of the mattress.

A SHOWER HEAD OR SPA JET

Grind at your own risk. Obviously practice safety by the water.

• Using the shower head, try running water over your labia, clitoris, penis or butt. 
• If you like it rough, and you have a spa or spa bath, consider upgrading to a jet-powered experience (just don't allow the water to shoot into any of your orifices).

A FOOT

Put your best forward.

• Cross your legs and grind against your heel, it makes doing yoga a lot more fun.
• Turn this into partnered play by inviting a lover to stimulate/be stimulated by. Consent is vital as is a little tenderness, especially if you're ticklish.

A SEX MACHINE

Who needs daily exercise when you can squat over one of these every morning? 

• Ring in a professional. The Cowgirl keeps you fit AND satisfied! Throw a blanket over the top if it’s a bit intense.

CLOTHING 

Try different types of clothing to get you off. 

• Perhaps it’s a seam in a pair of jeans or wearing a pair of silk knickers. 
• Boxer shorts made of lace or satin can be super erotic when you only ever wear cotton.

LUBE
Not just for penetration or conventional masturbation.

• Slick up your genitals with some silicone lube before a bike ride.
• Lube up before rubbing and squeezing your legs together until you cum.
  
  

ADD SOME 'ON FOR HER' / 'ON FOR HIM'

This stimulant is designed to drive desire. Just a drop on the clitoris or trickled over the penis is a sure fire way to dial up the heat. 

BUTT PLUGS

Want to really ramp up your grinding and humping? Wear a butt plug. 

• NJoy stainless steel toys are incredible.
• Try the Aneros for when you’re tightening your pelvic floor. Next. Level.