Welcome to your Comprehensive P-Spot Pleasure guide! How do I locate the prostate? What does it feel like to receive and give prostate pleasure?
We've included four levels of prostate play exercises for you to try.
What is the prostate and what does it do?
The prostate is a gland, generally found in people assigned male at birth (AMAB), that makes semen; the fluid that transports sperm as ejaculate. For more specific, scientific diagrams (to help you locate the prostate) check out Oh Joy Sex Toy (the pictures are a tad explicit #NSFW but in jazzy cartoon format!)
How do I find the prostate and show it a good time?
Level 1 - First put down a towel (or for the connoisseurs, a Liberator Throw). Encourage your partner to assume the position, laying on their back with their legs spread apart. Put a glove on, lubricate generously, then warm up with circles around the outside of the anus, and if comfortable, a little on the inside. Talk through how it feels if you're doing this with a partner. Click here to watch a short video.
Level 2 - Wearing a glove, lubricate and ease your finger inside, rocking back and forth around the prostate using a ‘come-hither’ stroking motion (rather than thrusting). Talk through how it feels.
Level 3 - Consider adding a toy designed for prostate play to your practice, in the same come-hither motion. Make sure it's clean and use plenty of water-based lubricant if it’s made of silicone. Have a partner use the toy on you or use it yourself. Remember, vibration increases blood flow and sensation, which can result in a stronger orgasm.
Level 4 - While you're blissing-out on what's happening around the back, you might lose firmness in the front if you have a penis. This has less to do with your level of arousal and more to do with your pleasure being centred elsewhere. Sometimes the massaging of the prostate is so intensely pleasurable, that prostatic fluid emerges from the urethra and you may ejaculate without an erection.
Now, go forth (gently) and prosper.