You’re here because you’ve likely read all of our Pegging 101 and quickfire FAQ content wondering, “Wait – should I apply this practice to my own? How and where do I begin?” We’re so glad you asked. The possibilities are endless my friends. Here are but a few ways you can get creative with pegging in your pleasure practice.


How pegging can improve your partnered play.

While some sources (read: porn) may depict pegging as an ‘extreme’ sexual act, there’s actually quite a lot of care and tenderness required for it to be enjoyable. And pegging might actually be an illuminating way to take a peek into your partner’s sexual experience, perceptions and perspectives.


For example, if you’ve ever only been penetrated, how does this affect the way you penetrate others? And vice versa. If you are always penetrating others, how do you respond to penetration and how might this new knowledge influence and improve future interactions? The empathy exchange is electric, no?


“I’m in a cis-hetero situation. When it comes to pegging, what's in it for me?”

Anal. Roleplay. Double penetration, Kink, BDSM, Dom/sub play. There’s so much pleasure potential here, so it’s really up to you.


If you’re thinking about anal sex, but don’t want/need/have a penis in your practice, pegging can be a great way to simulate this without any members involved. It can also be a great way to train for bigger things, which is helpful if your lover is well-endowed.


You or your lover may have expressed the desire to be doubly penetrated (orally, anally, vaginally, sounding, etc.). Pegging could be a way for you to facilitate this fantasy without introducing another living, breathing human.


If you find yourself looking for new ways to take your experience as a submissive to the next level, and also enjoy anal stimulation, pegging may be a perfect way to do that. And you don’t necessarily need to think too out of the box to achieve this. Vaginal, oral or anal: pegging is still penetration, and most types of submission to penetration will work here. However, pegging is a great way to elevate the experience of submitting to that penetration. The same pertains to the dominant.


If you are in a heterosexual presenting relationship and are the dominant but also the one typically being penetrated, pegging is an incredible way to experience dominating from a new perspective. In a similar vein, pegging can be an extremely interesting way to explore gender play. Do not underestimate the power of psychosexual repetition, if you believe it enough you can truly feel like you possess a penis in that moment, allowing that feeling to guide you through the whole experience.

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“I’m kinky and I want to integrate pegging into my scenes.”

Simply taking on a new identity or persona (or fursona)? Pegging could provide you with the physicality you seek to fulfil a particular desire. I mean, imagine having a lover with two dicks? IMAGINE! Or maybe a tentacle dildo is in your fantasy? Pegging could be the way you fulfil this particular fantasy, anally or otherwise!


Pegging can also be a great place to incorporate lingerie play into your sexual routine. Often people have a very one dimensional idea of what strap-on harnesses might look like – leather and strappy, right? This idea can often be something of a turn off.


But, now there’s a good selection of lingerie styled strap-on harnesses that mimic underwear, often with suspender hooks so that you can also wear stockings. You can put together a coordinating outfit and initiate intimacy through lingerie play, slowly unwrapping the package until you get to the dildo.

“I love butt stuff and want to further my anal exploration.”

You may have tried finger stuff, mouth stuff, and member stuff. But, if you love butt stuff, pegging can be a great way to further your practice. It can also be a great way to train your body to size up to bigger plugs, penises and dildos. 


“I’m a solo player, how can I introduce pegging into my play without coming off as intense?!”

Look, this one’s tricky but it could also be high-reward. Perhaps, in your flirtations, you could allude to an interest in pegging if and when parties have shown enthusiasm around the act. Not saying you should bring this up on a first encounter, but that you should ‘read the room’ and if the topic arises, express an informed interest in the matter. So formal, I know. Remember, the act is what you want it to be, and it pays to make your intentions known.


How to get started

Anal sex of any sort warrants a warm up. I would never recommend that you jump straight into anal sex or pegging. Practice sessions with fingers and/or butt plugs is a good way to work your way up to anal sex. However, unlike a butt plug, there’s pretty constant movement happening during pegging, meaning that the rectal muscle will stay engaged the entire time. Being comfortable and relaxed is absolutely necessary, so you will need to communicate with your partner.


Remember, as the pegger the dildo is not a part of your body so you can’t actually feel the dildo inside of your partner. Make sure to check in with them regularly, always ensuring that the depth and pace isn’t over the top. A good way to relax into the sensation, while also creating a feeling of safety with your partner, is to breathe together as you slowly insert the toy; breathing with the sensation as you slowly warm to desiring more rigorous movement.

Pegging is not inherently queer or inherently anything besides the act of wearing a strap-on harness and dildo to penetrate someone anally.

Sex is an inherently creative art form. You can be creating something new everytime you engage in it; seeing yourself as a performer taking on a new character to create something new and fun. Sometimes it can be a beautiful experience in the fluidity of gender and sexuality. However, that is only if you want it to.


At the end of the day, this is your experience and in the realm of pleasure, it is always a priority to follow your own intuition. Let it guide you and assist you in mapping out your new pleasure zones. Learning and growing with each new encounter. New things will always come up as you start to actively participate in new forms of intimacy. You can never go into a new sexual experience and know for sure what you will and won’t like. We learn from experience and practice, it is how we start to narrow down the specifics of our desires in different sexual acts. So I leave you now with what I can and wish you the most pleasurable of peggings.